If you are a parent, and if you’re being totally honest, you’ve felt like a complete failure as a mom or dad at least ONCE.
If you’re anything like ME, you are used to feeling like a failure at least once a DAY!!
I mean, putting aside their physical needs and wants, it’s still a battle to try to raise mature, emotionally healthy, kind, and caring people.
Getting my kids ready for school in the morning is often worse than having teeth pulled, truth be told. My two kids usually pick first thing in the morning to fight with one another, scream and whine about , um, EVERYTHING, and just in general, test every part of my still-growing character.
Sometimes I finish the “match” victorious, having shed nobody elses’ blood and remaining basically in control of my temper and my sanity.
But there are other days…..
These other days, I’m ashamed to admit it, are filled with screaming, crying, and feeling so out of control. And then there’s the KIDS’ behaviors! 😉😉
If you’re anything like me, you shame yourself all day, go back to the school to apologize to your kids roughly twelve times, and binge-eat macaroni and cheese for the rest of the afternoon.
Because I KNOW I’m supposed to be better than that. I’m supposed to be calmer than that. I’m SUPPOSED to be showing my kids who Jesus is through MY actions and behaviors!
Yet most days, all I do is fail.
Well, I recently heard a quote that kind of helped me breathe a little easier, and because I’m not always selfish, I’m going to share it with all of you, too.:
“Our kids don’t need us to BE Jesus in front of them so much as they need us to NEED Jesus in front of them.”
Did you just breathe a sigh of relief there??
There is truly so much healing in those words for moms, and even dads.
Being Jesus to our kids is daunting and downnright impossible!!
But needing Him?? This is a little easier for me to accomplish.
It involves showing your weakness to your kids.
“But wait! Why would we do that?”
So that your children will learn early on that all human beings are flawed and very imperfect, and in GREAT NEED of redemption.
Now, I’m not saying go ahead and be horrible to your kids, and they’re just going to have to get used to it.
No, what I’m saying is that I think we need to do more ASKING FOR REDEMPTION, in front of them.
We need to ask for patience.
In front of them.
We need to beg for wisdom.
In front of them.
We need to even start asking THEM for forgiveness when we bite their heads off.
Does this seem more “do-able” to you? It definitely does to me.
We’ll never BE Jesus.
But with every need we bring Him,
With every weakness exposed and open for healing,
With every confessed sin,
With every apology,
We will be exactly who we need to be for our precious children…
Right in front of them.
As for me, since I am poor and needy, let the Lord keep me in His thoughts. You are my helper and my savior. O my God, do not delay.