Gotta Clear a Few Things Up.


Recently, I received some pretty negative feedback about my blog. That’s the thing about blogs. You have to take the hurtful comments along with the positive ones. One of the comments was this: “When are you going to close the door on your stroke?” At first it was okay, but now it’s a bit much, and most of us are over it. Besides, where is God in your blog? He is nowhere to be found. It’s becoming self-indulgent.”

When I first received this comment, I will admit I cried. One of my biggest weaknesses, is that I am a people pleaser, even though I’m getting better about it. Anyway, I took a long, hard look at the situation, reread all of my blogs, and most of all, prayed.

So, I’m going to address this point by point, not to defend myself and not to be petty. But, what if other people feel the way this person does? The last thing I want to be is a hindrance to somebody knowing who God is. To help people understand where I’m coming from, I’m going to attempt this, okay?

The first sentence: How could I close the door on my stroke? It is not a broken leg, something that in time will completely heal. It is ever present in most aspects of my life. There’s that and there’s also the fact that I keep getting them.

Second sentence: I kind of agree with this one, to an extent. It’s VERY easy to be “over” something that has never happened to you, so it must be a drag to read it if you feel that way. And to that end, I would really like you to NOT read it if it’s really bothering you. But I WILL say, that there are at least 300 or so stroke survivors who read it each week, and they know there’s really no “getting over it.” Plus, all of the people who have suffered a deep loss have probably been told in so many words to “get over it.” It seems ruder to say that to someone who lost a child than it does to say that to someone who had a stroke, which is pretty hurtful. A loss is a loss.

Third sentence: This one really hurt. If you can’t see God in my blogs, then I’m not sure where you’re looking. Because to me, He is EVERYWHERE in them! I challenged myself to use this blog a few months into it to not only study verses and give my insight, but to also share the gospel by challenging who WE ALL have known God to be! Granted, that’s at the very beginning of the gospel, but it’s definitely a part. How will anyone make a genuine commitment to God unless they know the TRUTH about who He is? I take my role in all of this VERY seriously.

Last part: Self indulgent. Honestly, putting my whole heart out there so that everyone can see the mess that it is, is extremely difficult! And I never do that, thinking to exalt myself in any way. I only want to give glory to God for taking so much time showing a pitiful little girl who her God is.

Okay. That’s it.

Now here’s what I learned from this whole hullabaloo.

I KNOW that Satan would LOVE for me to think that the person who wrote these words must hate me and is my enemy. But the only enemy I will EVER have is him!

I’ve gotten several really encouraging verses that have really helped me remember who I’m battling against!

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

Ephesians 6:12

Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, And whose hope is the Lord. 8 For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters, Which spreads out its roots by the river, And will not fear when heat comes; But its leaf will be green, And will not be anxious in the year of drought, Nor will cease from yielding fruit

Jeremiah 17:7

And here’s my favorite!

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.

1Corinthians 15:58

This is MY walk, MY journey. So, I’m just gonna keep on walking. 🙂

9 thoughts on “Gotta Clear a Few Things Up.

  1. “Most of us are over it” is an unbelievably insensitive thing to say about ANYTHING that happened to someone else and not to the speaker/commenter. How nice that this person has been able to “get over” something that is not affecting his/her daily life. (Insert eye roll here.)

    I would ask the person who left the comment to re-read his/her comment and ask “Where is God in that comment?” It is not loving or kind or “helpful for building others up according to their needs” (Eph 4:29). It sounds like someone needs to remove the plank from their own eye before they start worrying about a speck that they think they might see in yours. 🙂

    Keep writing, Pami. Writing is such an excellent way to address struggles in a way that helps you deal with them instead of just dwelling on them. And God is definitely using your blog. 🙂

  2. Words of wisdom I received from an airplane seat companion: “Don’t listen to the complainers. They never build anythiing.” I later learned that his name was Francis, one of the co-founders of Federal Express. Live for yourself, do what you’ve always done, and the negativism just roll off your back.

  3. Amen Pami, If anyone really knows you I see God in everything you do. You have touched so many people and will continue to do so. No one can judge another person until they walk in their shoes. Your writings are a healing tool for you and many people, You are a great person, you are not sitting back and having a pitty party, you continue on your walk every day, a mom, a wife, a princess of the most high, a sister, a cousin, a great friend to so many people. Keep writing from your heart and experience- God is with you in every way-teaching and growing your faith. Pam Rodkey

  4. Keep on writing Pam! I personally think your blogs are great, and a real source of inspiration for others who have had a stroke. I work with people with acquired brain injury and it helps me understand things better when I hear about their personal struggles, challenges and triumphs. Of course God is in everything and I like how you pointed that out.

  5. Pam,

    This blog is for you. It always has been and it always will be. It is your way to cope with what happened and as therapy to help you with both the physical and emotional damage done to you. It is not for anyone else to judge. You could put up bad limericks or recipes for dandelions and it would not matter as long as you got something out of it. If anyone else gains anything from your blog hearing of your experiences, well that’s just a bonus. If they don’t like your blog, there are thousands of other blogs to read. There is only one important consumer of your blog and that is you.

  6. The first thought that comes to me, and I mean this sincerely, is: “Oh, My GOD.” Translation: “oh, God, how can anybody say this to Pami Jo??” The person who wrote this is alarmingly dissociated, perhaps mentally unstable – clearly incapable of either empathy or compassionate understanding. In fact, the comment is so absurd, and so completely irrelevant, that you should simply write it off. “Pearls before swine” comes to mind here; the person responsible for the statement is disturbed beyond your requirement to address. Period.

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