The other day, I was talking to a friend of mine. He was expressing he was feeling guilty for having time to help other people in times of crisis, but had put his wife and her needs on the “back burner”, so to speak. I immediately felt guilty, too. Not so much for not paying attention to my husband, although that’s part of it, but for how I treat him.
If you asked me if I would ever speak to a boss or colleagues the way I sometimes speak to Jeremy, I would tell you NEVER! And that’s pretty horrible. Yeah, yeah…I have lots of things I can blame my crankiness on, but none of that can cover up some of the things I’ve said or done.
You see, I save the best part of me for everyone else, and give him whatever is left. And sometimes, all that is left is weariness, discouragement, or just plain old nastiness! I’ve told myself in the past that this is because I feel safe to just be who I am with him. Well then, if THAT’S who I am, I sure don’t want to be her!
Take a look at these verses with me:
22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…
Ephesians 5: 22-25
Besides all the talk of submission, which is NOT the issue of this blog, look at the order of importance husbands and wives have with one another. We come second in importance only to God Himself! And He paints a picture which shows that how we should be treating each other is very similar to how we should be treating God, and of how He treats US and loves US.
So that alone tells me how much I should be taking care of that relationship. The answer is ….so much more!
I apologized to my husband for the way I’ve been treating him, and for the low priority I was giving our relationship. I am purposing to do better, to be gentler, kinder, and much more gracious than I was a few days ago. Just shy of Jesus, I want Jeremy to have the very best parts of me, like I want to have the very best parts of him. Second in importance only to Jesus. And that’s pretty darn important!