This Saturday is mine and Jeremy’s sixth wedding anniversary. Funny…sometimes it feels like 2 years, and some days it feels like 22!
We sure have jammed a lot of experience into these six years… along with a lot of heartbreak, dissapointments, and last-minute decisions not to give up.
I’ve always known that, for me, divorce is not an option unless myself or my children are at risk. Because I always knew that when I said those vows, they were promises I HAD to keep. You see, most people look at marriage like a contract or a “handshake….something you can undo with another piece of paper,with another set of signatures.
But marriage is so much more than that! It is a covenant. Covenant as defined by the scriptures is a solemn and binding relationship which is meant to last a lifetime. Covenant is the word used in the bible to represent the promise Christ makes to His bride- you and me.
The Lord did not set his love on you and choose you because you were more numerous than other peoples, for you were the fewest of all peoples. But it was because the Lord loved you and kept the oath He swore to your forefathers that He brought you out with a mighty hand and redeemed you from the land of slavery, from the power of Pharaoh king of Egypt.
And that’s what makes divorce such a tough pill for God to swallow (Yes, He gives us such examples when divorce is justified.). Because divorce completely misrepresents God and His covenant. Christ will NEVER leave His bride! Not ever. We may betray Him, ignore Him, undervalue Him, but He will never break His covenant to love us ALWAYS.
Human marriage was created by God in the book of Genesis. It was created to reflect, portray, and display the “marriage” between God and those who believe in Him. It was one of those nifty, little gospel tracts all wrapped up in the love and commitment between two people!
The thought that my marriage, even though it has its rocky spots and we manage to continue to commit, could be used to give God some glory….wow! It makes me look at marriage in a whole new light. It’s not about roses and romance…it’s about staying with someone who made a GINORMOUS mistake! It’s about staying with someone who one day is no longer who they once were, who requires more care and patience than you ever dreamed you’d have to give. It’s about staying when all you really want to do is jet out that door and never look back.
John Piper writes, “Jesus died for sinners. He forged a covenant in the white-hot heat of his suffering in our place. He made an imperfect bride his own with the price of his blood and covered her with the garments of his own righteousness. He said, ‘I am with you…to the end of the age…I will never leave you nor forsake you.’ Marriage is meant by God to put that gospel reality on display in the world. That is why we are married. That is why all married people are married, even when they don’t know and embrace this gospel.”
Well, I know about this gospel, and I try to embrace it everyday. THAT is why I am married. I love you, Jeremy. But more than that….I will never leave you nor forsake you….so that others can see the love of God, hopefully, through us.