The “Sweet Spot”


3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

2 Corinthians 1: 3, 4


When I was in the hospital last week for a couple of days, a young woman visited me. It just so happened to be the day I was very discouraged and fearful.  This woman’s name is Letitia.  Anyway, Letitia is 30 and suffered a major stroke at the age of 22, just a day after giving birth to a stillborn baby.  We had been talking on the phone for months but had never met until that day.  I saw a woman who had suffered great loss, but in the 8 years that followed, had made some sort of peace with it, and managed to get along just fine in this world after making a few modifications in how she processed things. Needless to say,  I felt 100 % better after her visit, and had renewed hope and faith to face all of these questionable days ahead. And I believe she was sent by God to do just that.

So, this week, I visited the father of a friend of mine, who has had several strokes and was told the same thing I was told…that he would continue to get them.  He was very discouraged and sad, understandably.  When I heard he was in the hospital, I KNEW I needed to go and see him.  I had never actually met him before, but after two hours just talking, praying, and crying with him, I felt strangely connected to him.  It turns out I was the perfect person to encourage him, being there myself!  I understood the depth of his fears and frustrations maybe better than anyone else could at that time. And when I left, I think we both felt lighter, stronger, and ready for the next battle!

This is what a wise man (wise in Godly wisdom)(John Mumper) referred to as the “sweet spot”.  When God uses someone to minister to you in a profound way, and you in turn, encourage someone else in a way only you can do, it is definitely a sweet spot to be in!! It’s not like that “pay it forward” concept, where you search someone out for whom you can do something kind.  It’s way bigger than that.  It is passing on the comfort you receive to another who is as desperate for it as you were.

I’ll tell you something else.  THIS is the picture God has of what His church (the body of believers) is supposed to look like.  A constant emptying out of ourselves, and then filling up, then emptying out again.  Over and over.  Using our unique set of circumstances and struggles to do so.  That is beautiful.  And I really hope I keep myself in such a position to find myself there again and again. Because it is DEFINITELY  a sweet spot!

3 thoughts on “The “Sweet Spot”

  1. Not putting this on Fbook…….over the years, finding myself at varying distances from God, spiritual attunement, however one wishes to couch it in terms……in those instances where the grace of God put me, I remember the word “secret” coming forward. There is a “secret” to being in that spot you described, a very quiet but emphatic revelation. No advertising; no marketing; no predetermined signs. Indeed – no signs, at all. Just being in the place the Lord led and, finding oneself there, the curtain falling away, and…. the ensuing revelation.

    Your whole life seems to have come to represent this, to those of us looking on. There is more to your experience than the whole of professional counseling or pastoral care combined. You could be keeping all this to yourself, but instead you are giving to us.Thank you for being so generous with your spirit, Pam.

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